What is it that you dream of doing? What do you think about at night when you have time from the business and chaos of every day? Where does your mind wander in the quiet hours? What vision makes your heart beat faster and your self-esteem soar? WHO and WHAT do you want to BE?
I’m writing you this article from Bali, Indonesia, where I’m sitting poolside with my beautiful wife, enjoying a steak sandwich and a cocktail. In about an hours time, I’ll probably go have a full body massage and walk on the beach.
Over the last few days I’ve been reflecting on how far I’ve come in my own personal journey towards Selfhood, overcoming the limits all around me to become the kind of person I want to be and live the kind of life I want to live. During this period of reflection, I’ve come to realize something: all of the “limits” were an illusion, and they only existed in my own mind.
Here’s an example: I now make 8x more than I did when I first arrived here. It took me 6 years to get here. Why? Because I accepted the dogshit sandwich I was handed when I first came out. I believed I wasn’t worth any more than that, I believed I needed the company to sponsor my visa and provide me with housing, and so that’s what I got. I looked for jobs in and around the salary I thought I was worth, and so I found crappy paying jobs, because I had crappy self-esteem.
I could have started 6 years ago making what I make today (many guys did), but I didn’t know I could, and I was one of those guys who was drifting through life going with the flow and seeing what would happen. It wasn’t until I decided “I’m going to have more money” that I magically “found” the opportunities that were there all along. It took a good friend of mine to switch me on to this, and I wish someone had told me years ago. Rule #1 – you don’t get what you deserve, you get what you accept.
I’m now living the kind of life most fellas dream of while jacking off on their lunch break in the office. I live in tropical Indonesia in a great pad with a pool view, I have a wife to die for, I make an income most people in the West would consider great which is worth 5x more here, I spend my ample free time in Bali, Thailand, The Philippines and a host of other paradise islands, chilling, jet-skiing and having a ball. Why do I do this? Because this was/is my dream. This is why i left home at 17 and started out on my own. This is what I wanted to build. Now I have it.
Why am I telling you this? Am I bragging? Maybe a little! But mostly I’m telling you this because I want you to know what’s possible. I want you to follow your dream. I want you to live how you want to live, and I want you to know how easy it is. I want you to feel inspired so that you try to prove “if this guy can do it, so can I!” The truth is you really can! I’m just a regular Joe from Ireland who had a dream and a will of steel, I wasn’t born into this life. If I can do it, so can anyone.
Anything in life is possible if you make it happen. I’m living on a higher level today, but it isn’t higher than I thought possible. I KNEW it was possible, and I tried and tried until I got here. I fell flat a few times for sure, but I got back up, dusted off and came at it from another angle. In the end with that strategy and attitude, success is certain.
So dare to dream! Don’t listen to that little voice in your head that says “what if?”. Don’t listen to the line of f*cking moronic losers who will tell you it isn’t possible, and don’t pay any attention to the haters who will do everything to hold you back so they aren’t forced to reflect on their own crummy lives beside your blinding light. As an old saying goes “those who mind don’t matter and those who matter don’t mind!”
Get out your pen and pencil. Write down what you’re GOING TO DO, and a plan of action with deadlines for doing it. I want you to do this right now, and I want you to take the first step before you lay your head down on your pillow tonight. If you don’t, kindly close down this site and go over to loserlane.com – because you simply do not belong in the arena of men determined to reach Selfhood and reach their inner vision.
I’m living proof you can do whatever you dream. There are many more guys out there just like me, doing it rather than jacking off while daydreaming about it. The only question you need to answer is: which camp do you belong in, shouldawouldacoulda or diditletmetellya?
Desire. Decide. Persist.