We’re all guilty of getting caught up in the daily grind, and with our noses firmly to the stone, working to make our dreams come true, or to simply survive, we lose perspective in life.
Days, weeks, and even months can go by this way. Then, WHAM, out of nowhere and always at the most unexpected time, the grim reaper swoops down and lifts one of our comrades in arms. Just like that, someone we knew and loved is dead.
I want to emphasize that point – they are dead. Not passed away, not sleeping peaceful, but dead. They will never exist again in the entire unfolding of this epic universe, although the matter which came together to form them will disperse and take other forms.
This happened to me recently. As you might have noticed, I haven’t updated this blog in months. That’s because I have been busy building a business, and working hard at making it work. This is taking significant amounts of time and energy, but I am seeing the results.
Yet these last couple of days, since I heard the news about my friend being killed in a road accident, I haven’t been able to focus as much. Death has cast not its dark shadow, but its bright light, upon everything I do, and made it seem pale and insignificant by comparison.
Don’t get me wrong – the living have got to keep on living, and work is a noble pursuit which should be followed fully once a calling is found, but when someone who was such a huge character that everyone gravitated towards them, someone seemingly larger than life, gets taken suddenly, it has a way of making everything else seem so small and unimportant.
You see, not only did my friend die suddenly, which shook me and made me think about my own impending demise (it will happen to us all, perhaps today), but I was also struck by the MASSIVE outpouring of grief and love from around the world for him.
This man helped me to change my life, and he touched other people in many positive ways. That made me think ‘Who will cry when I die?’ and to tell you the truth, I now realize that is the only thing left of my friend – what he did for others on this earth. It will be the only thing which matters in your life too, and mine, so I’m going to be thinking about how I can best contribute to the world in light of all this.
My friend was no saint, but neither are any of us and the great thing is we don’t have to be. We just have to live with big heart’s and make sure we leave the world a better place.
Don’t forget to take a moment out to appreciate the things you already have around you. Hug your wife and children. Take time to share a few beers or a cup of tea with friends and reminisce. Death is a little like a tax audit – it only happens to other people, until it happens to you.
Life is short. Go and live it! Do that thing you have always wanted, because you never know when you won’t have the chance again.
Until next time,