How to Win

Winning, gentlemen, feels damn good.

You can tell a man who is a winner when you see him in the street.

There’s something about the way he carries himself. An air of authority if you will, an air of confidence.

Everybody wants to be a winner, but how do you get there? How do you be that guy in the street who people look at and say “Yup, he’s one of them”.

It’s actually quite simple, but like most things in life, we overcomplicate it.

First, you find that óne thing’. I call it this, but a lot of people have called it other things. It’s your natural groove, your talent, or your gift. I’m not talking about this following your passion new age mumbo jumbo I hear every day – I’m talking about that thing you have, deep down inside of you, that you know you’re the best at.

Let’s call this óne thing’ your natural gift. I’m a firm believer we all have one, but we spend so much time trying to live up to the images other people have of us that we never admit it to ourselves and develop it to its full potential.

Worse than that, some men are even scared of their gift. They’re afraid of the responsibility that comes with recognizing it and actually having to realize they aren’t using it. There’s a lot said about the fear of failure – entire books have been written about it – but less is said about the FEAR OF SUCCESS which is just as real.

That’s step 1 – you find your one thing. For me it’s writing. For you it might be music, or painting, or sales, or math, or racing cars. I don’t know what it is, and it will be different for each and every one of us, but I know it’s in there.

After you uncover it, you develop it. You start to use it and you refine it, taking on feedback, learning from those ahead of you on your path, and you start gaining confidence. You start to believe in yourself, that you ARE great at something, and you CAN be the best at it. You begin to become UNafraid, and realize that your gift is your ticket to the fast lane. This is how you will make it. This is your way to become a winner.

Then, finally, you develop the winners mindset. You cross a certain threshold in the using of your óne thing’ and BOOM, just like that, you’re a winner. It happens slowly at first, but when you break through and actually cross the point of no return, the tipping point where your old, afraid conditioning finally snaps and you break into the mindset of a winner, it all begins to happen so much faster.

I know this because it’s happened for me. I’ve been down more than once in my life, and I have risen up like a phoenix from the ashes each and every time. I’m sure I will be down again, but I will keep mother fucking RISING until the day I die, climbing to ever greater heights.

You become a winner by winning, but you win by believing you can and persisting until you do.

That’s all there is to it. Find it. Develop it. Pursue it with obsession and practice until you become the best in the world.




Desire. Decide. Persist.


1 Comment

  1. You’ve had a go at Victor Pride for his content, but yours isn’t any different, particularly the subject of this post. In my opinion, you’re all taking your cues (consciously or otherwise) from Dale Carnegie. Fair play to you though for creating something. I just don’t know what aspect of the Self is clarified by hating on someone else’s creation. You must mean lower-case-selfhood.

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