Like it or not, we all have limited amounts of time and energy, guys.
Nobody, not even the richest man in the world, has an unlimited source of either. Every day the clock is ticking, and every day you are constantly expending energy while you are engaged in the activities of living.
The question is, what are you investing these two precious resources in?
Are you wasting either of them?
Are you investing them in skills, activities and habits that get you any closer to where you want to go?
If not, why are you complaining that you aren’t where you want to be? Change it and take action instead!
Realizing What Is Going To Get You Where You Want To Be
A guy I know recently complained to me that he was sick of his job and being overweight.
I asked him how much time he spent developing the skills he needed to get a new job, and how much time a week he spent at the gym?
He actually got offended by my questions and started rambling about lucky breaks, not having time, his kids eating up his time and money and the system and all its’ flaws!
Needless to say, I just switched off and changed the station. I don’t have time for people who have a victim mentality and don’t want to find solutions to their problems. Investing my time and energy in these people has no return for me, so I don’t do it.
The first step to getting where you want to be is realizing where that is. I can attest to this as for years I travelled around with no real goals other than to have an adventure. It was fun, interesting and full of learning, but I ultimately didn’t get anywhere meaningful.
Since then I’ve changed. I made a few decisions about where I wanted to be in life, such as:
Once I had identified those things and knew they were what I wanted (your gut will tell you if you are lying to yourself), I then started working backwards and figuring out what causes I needed to put in place, or what activities I needed to engage in, to bring about the effects I desired.
There were really no excuses. I simply wasn’t where I wanted to be because I had made no real effort to get there.
I then decided to change that. Owning up to that and taking responsibility isn’t easy, but the sooner you get there the better. Once you realize the outcome is largely in your hands you are empowered to change things.
The First Part Is Always The Hardest – Skill Building & Developing Positive Habits
When you figure out what it is you want and write it down, that is the easy part.
The first part really begins when you begin your journey on these various paths. There is a tendency to spread yourself thin and concentrate on too many projects at once, but if you do that nothing will ever get off the ground.
To be really effective I’d say have a maximum of one goal in all the major areas of your life: Wealth, Fitness, Love, Education and Social.
You may or may not have already been making efforts to achieve goals in these areas. If you haven’t really spent much time working on them yet, then the first part is going to be hard because you need to develop the skills that will actually lead you to the results you desire.
Developing new skills isn’t easy to begin. Take bodybuilding for example. It took me years to really get good at it, learning what foods I needed to eat, how much to rest, what exercises I needed to do in order to maximize my results, how to integrate it into my lifestyle, etc.
I’ve been trying at this lifestyle for over three years, yet 90% of my gains have come in the last year. That’s what happens when you finally get it right and all the parts click together.
Also with writing you can look back at my first posts and have a good giggle. I honestly thought I was a great writer, yet I was like a kid with a coloured pencil learning how to draw stick men.
The point is your skills will develop the more you practice them consistently. It just won’t be easy in the beginning. As NASA know, the rocket uses more fuel getting out of the earths atmosphere and into space than the rest of the journey to the moon. It’s that first part which involved breaking out of resistance that’s most difficult.
Make Sure Your Skills Are Relevant
One of the other big mistakes people make are developing irrelevant skills and expecting results that simply will not follow.
For example, if you want to generate huge amounts of income you need to find ways to deliver huge amounts of value to people. You can’t just do what you enjoy doing if it creates no value for others and expect to be paid a lot of money. Others need to benefit from it, and preferably on a large-scale, if you want to be paid for it.
Don’t get me wrong though. It does help that you actually enjoy what you are trying to learn how to do. This will provide you with the momentum and fuel you need to keep going long enough to actually get good at it. There’s nothing worse than doing something you hate just for the payoff, although lots of people do actually live that way.
As always the law of cause and effect reigns supreme. You need to put the correct causes in place for the desired effects to follow. You can’t sit and play video games all day developing Fifa skills and expect people to pay you, and you can’t engage in a lifelong Pilates practice and expect to look like Phil Heath. You can’t just sit there and engage in wishful thinking like The Secret teaches and expect the universe to re-arrange itself and deliver your dreams to you.
Those are actions (causes) which just won’t lead to the desired outcomes (effects), and then there are actions that will.
If you are going to spend time developing skills, do a little research first and make sure it is relevant and worth it. You could even pick someone who has already succeeded and achieved the results you want and “model” them.
For example, I recently started studying again and picked a diploma which is highly relevant to the career I have chosen. I can see the direct link between getting this diploma and massive opportunity for myself in the near future.
That’s what you’re aiming for. Relevance. When you can see the direct benefit you will get as a result of a course of action you will find that motivation to do it unlimited.
Stop Making Excuses
I was browsing youtube recently and saw a video about a French homeless bodybuilder. The guy lives on the streets of Paris yet he is in better shape that most wealthy people who have access to gyms, supplements and the best of nutrition.
You know what I saw underneath in the comments section? Excuses!
“Easy to get in shape when you have nothing else to do all day”….
“If he had kids he wouldn’t have the time to work out so much”….
“If he had an actual job and contributed to society he wouldn’t have the energy to do 100 pullups a day”….
Trolls and their excuses! Never mind the fact that this man has spent years developing a specific skill before attaining the great results he has and has also a hard life into the bargain.
Yet this is what most people are actually like. This is how they think and then they wonder why their lives suck!
Here’s the deal. If you live in a free country, which can be classified as any nation with an education system, basic political rights and access to the internet and other utilities, you can become anything you want. If you have those three things you have all the tools at your disposal, probably at a very low-cost, to become anything you want to be in this life.
With them you can:
Get Into Stellar Shape
Hit the gym for an hour four times a week and stop stuffing your face full of health destroying, sugar based foods. Don’t know about nutrition? Get a library card or get online and study. Start here.
Go back to school at a community college, get a trade, start working and start your own business. Work 18 hours a day at it. Alternatively use your skills to market yourself online and build up a good reputation as being the best at what you do. Create the value and the money will follow. You have a global market at your fingertips.
Learn Anything You Want
If you want to get an education there are endless options these days. With the internet you can work full-time and study too. You have no reason not to upskill given the mass amount of cheap, self paced education options these days. Do your research and find out what is needed in the market, or what you want to learn about and find the finances.
There are no excuses anymore. Fifty years ago maybe, but not anymore.
The world is your oyster. All you have to do is stop making excuses, figure out what you want, discover and develop the necessary skills to take you there and just put in the time and energy, every single day, to just doing it.
Only invest your precious time and energy in the things that will help you get where you want to go. The rest is just a waste of time. Try this for a few months and see how far you get in that short space of time.
The results you see will give you the drive to keep going and will help you realize how much you’ve been wasting your most precious commodities all these years!
Desire. Decide. Persist.