“The power to choose can never be taken from you. It can be neglected or ignored, but if used, it will make all the difference” – Steve Goodier
Look at yourself in the mirror.
Look into your own eyes.
You see that? That is a man looking back. That is the single most powerful creature that has ever walked this earth.
That is a creature that has the ability, at any time he decides, to do whatever the f*ck he chooses to do.
That is a being with free will, the only being in the history of life on earth with the ability to say “yes” or “no” as he sees fit.
Those two simple one syllable words are your power. When you realize that you will be in the driver’s seat of your life.
We have all had times when we felt powerless. Maybe someone died and we couldn’t stop it. Maybe someone left us and we couldn’t make them stay. Maybe we chose a career that is wrong for us and have become stuck in it because of obligation and the expectations of others. Maybe we married the wrong girl.
Sometimes we sell our freedom, the only thing that makes us men, for some perceived profit.
But that profit can become a prison.
The career can become a set of golden handcuffs.
The wife can become a full family of people you did not agree to be involved with and have no love for making endless demands on you.
The new toy can become a maxed out credit card and sleepless nights wondering how you are going to pay for it.
It’s time to take back control.
Look into the mirror. Look into the eyes that look back on you. That is a man, a man with all the power in the universe encapsulated in one tiny word…..
No, I’m busy.
No, I don’t want to.
No, not today.
Remember that power. When you begin to feel your life is no longer yours and you are losing the reigns of your own life, start to say no. When people ask you why say “Because I am a man and that is what I have chosen”.
Men will respect that, women will back down to that, children will understand that is what is best. There is no need to say anything more.
You are a man. You can sever any bond you wish. You can quit your job. You can sell the toy and pay off the loan. You can leave. You hold the keys to unlocking your own shackles.
Realize that it is always your choice. Maybe you will choose not to quit, not to sell, not to leave.
Sometimes knowing this is what you chose is enough to restore the feeling of control and power.
But sometimes, more is necessary. Sometimes you have to grab your balls, swallow hard and just take control.
After you do you’ll wonder what you’ve been afraid of all these years.
Desire. Decide. Persist.